There are Always GEMS in the Rubble: Exploring and Accepting Our Shadow Side

Leave a comment
Uncategorized

Right here, right now:

If YOUR DESIRED ENDGAME is global enlightenment leading to planetary ascension, and if you believe this can only be done through the complete acceptance of oneself and others – all the good, the bad and the ugly, no matter what that may be – then you may find this information inspiring and perhaps even worth sharing to that means.

Let’s explore.

More often than not, we experience a significant “breakdown” before we can experience a significant “breakthrough”.

The proverbial “rubble” left lying all around us after we “go through” a crisis, catharsis, traumatic event or even just a difficult situation, contains not just the aftermath of whatever negative emotion it may have inspired in you, including shock, rage or anger, disbelief and the accompanying grief or sadness that usually ensues.

It often contains precious gems of wisdom that lie in wait of being discovered, cherished and passed on to others.

Looking around at it, the “rubble”, I mean, what can we see?

If one were to play back the entire “breakdown” or “situation” in our minds, we could observe our own behaviours, thought processes and conclusions made, that would eventually lead to the “breakthrough” or “resolution” of said situation.

Taking an honest and in-depth look at oneself from a non-judgemental viewpoint (which is indeed difficult to do, yet not impossible) is to propel one’s self-development forward at mach speed.

It is the “internal” work that we do that ultimately grants the self access to full liberation, consciousness and enlightenment.

This, through the awareness and exploration of the multiple levels of consciousness existing within our being, be it on the emotional, psychological, instinctual or spiritual levels.

And it is in these multitudinous, simultaneously existing, timeless realms of our consciousness that the practice of meditation reveals, that these precious “gems” or “realizations” may be uncovered and revealed to the self.

Image courtesy of https://embracingspirituality.com

The emotional and psychological realms are where we shall begin our exploration today. That includes predominantly the hidden aspects of our deep selves, referred to as “the shadow side” or of our personalities or “the shadow archetype”.

“The shadow archetype is the unconscious side of a personality that a person represses. This term was first coined by Carl Jung, the renowned psychologist who practiced in the early 20th century. In literature and film, this archetype is a powerful prototype that represents the dark forces of human nature.”https://www.wisegeek.com/what-is-the-shadow-archetype.htm

The “Shadow Work”

Looking at our most primitive, negative human emotions and impulses, like rage, envy, greed, selfishness, desire, or the striving for power – all which may or may not surface, to varying degrees in our lives when we are under pressure or undergoing a “breakdown”, is doing what’s called the “Shadow Work”.

During this time of self-isolation, our “shadow side” is very likely to be rearing up it’s challenging aspects.

You may be finding it hard, these days, not to focus more time than usual on your own perceived shortcomings or behaviours that you are less than proud of, and frankly, would rather not acknowledge, or fixate more than usual on some degree of self-loathing.

This, I speak of from self exploration in these rapidly evolutionary – and revolutionary times.

Take heart: These feelings are a natural result of having more time for introspection and reflection, especially in these uncertain times, when we are not just observing our own shadow side, but that of the world’s as a collective.

By the collective’s shadow side, I am referring to the residual, negative feelings felt in humanity as a whole as a result of by the underlying desires and actions taken that drove all aspects of the creation and execution of malicious, global social engineering systems by corrupt leaders with anti-human agendas (for the past several thousands of years); their ceaseless fear-mongering and outright physical, emotional and mental torture and abuse, that still seeks to annihilate our fundamental sovereignty as human inhabitants of this, our planet Earth.

As an aside: The real tragedy here is, left to our own purely human devices, our collective shadow side would be a mere shadow of what it is today...

Humanity cannot be “inhumane”. That is an oxymoron. It is possible to behave in an inhumane fashion, but what are the unseen negative influences driving those behaviours? Something to be explored in future posts. I digress...

Our existing, deeply wounded collective shadow side, described above, is surely enough to conjure the rage and unleashing of the resulting wrath of a several millennia in a heartbeat, and justifiably so.

Or so it would appear.

Image courtesy of https://patheos.com

Herein lies the danger:

Being unconscious of their own shadow side (and we ALL have one – no exceptions) there are those who project their shadow side onto a “scapegoat”: Others or groups of others.

They point fingers at them, condemning them and their actions, cementing an “us and them”, “right and wrong”, dualistic reality, that only serves to feed and fuel the fires of the perceived wrongdoers.

It is no secret that the entire world is on the precipice of facing challenges of “biblical” proportions. Those savvy, who are not still, as we all once were, swayed and manipulated by the mainstream media or the “controlled narrative”, know this to be true – and are preparing as best they can.

It will become critical at those future points to remember to do one thing which I will address shortly. Right now, let’s learn more about what our shadow side is exactly.

More About Our Shadow Side

“Everything we deny in ourselves—whatever we perceive as inferior, evil, or unacceptable—becomes part of the shadow. Everything incompatible with our chosen conscious attitude about ourselves resides in this dark side.

The personal shadow is the disowned self. It represents the parts of us we no longer claim to be our own, including inherent positive qualities. These unexamined or disowned parts of our personality hide within us.

Although we deny them in our attempt to cast them out, we can’t get rid of
them. We repress these qualities; they are part of our unconscious.

Think of the unconscious as everything we are not conscious of within us. We can’t eliminate the shadow. It stays with us as our dark brother or sister. Trouble arises when we fail to see our shadow. For then, to be sure, it is standing right behind us.” Scott Jeffrey, The Shadow: Getting to Know Your Darker Half

The shadow side is born in childhood through “good” behaviour being accepted and “bad” behaviour being rejected…

A child has a tantrum and is sent to their room or is shamed and punished for acting spontaneous and silly in a classroom.

This threatens the child’s basic needs, as they now fear their parents’ disapproval may jeopardize their safety – and their teachers’ and classmates’ disapproval threatens their need to belong.

They then learn how to “adapt” to preserve their own feeling of wellbeing and…

…the shadow side is born.

Alan Watts

“This is the most important thing he (Carl Jung) was able to point out, that to the degree you condemn others and find fault in others, you are, to that degree, unconscious of the same thing in yourself, or at least of the possibility of it.”
Alan Watts, 1915 – 1973

British philosopher, speaker and author, Alan Watts, known for interpreting and popularizing Buddhism, Taoism and Hinduism for a Western audience, wrote more than 25 books and articles on religion and philosophy, introducing the emerging hippie counterculture to The Way of Zen (1957), one of the first bestselling books on Buddhism. He also explored human consciousness and psychedelics in works such as The New Alchemy (1958) and The Joyous Cosmology (1962).

Watts’ legacy lives on through his many inspirational speeches, some of which have millions of views on YouTube.

He was a great admirer of the work of Swiss psychiatrist and psychoanalyst, Carl Jung, who founded analytical psychology and coined the term, “shadow side” or “shadow archetype”.

Carl Jung, 1875 – 1961

Jung said, in this timely quote, which could be mirroring our circumstances today…

“Just because there are people who are unconscious of their dark sides, and they project that darkness outward onto say, Jews, or communists, or whatever the enemy may be, and say “there is the darkness, it is not in me!..

Therefore because the darkness is not in me, I am justified in annihilating this enemy whether it be with atom bombs or gas chambers, or what have you.

But to the degree that a person becomes conscious that the evil is as much in himself as in the other, to this same degree, he is not likely to project it to onto some scapegoat and commit the most criminal acts of violence.

In order to admit and really accept and understand the evil within oneself, one had to do it without being an enemy to it...

In other words, you have to accept your own dark side.”

Conclusion: It is the projection of the shadow side onto the scapegoat that leads to violence; not the acceptance of it.

When describing Jung, Watts said,

“I had a long conversation with him (Jung) back in 1958 and I was enormously impressed with a man who is obviously very great, but at the same time, with whom everyone could be completely at ease.

There are so many great people; great in knowledge or great in what is called holiness.

Jung managed to to have wisdom, and I think also sanctity, in such a way that when other people came into its presence, they didn’t feel judged, they felt enhanced, encouraged and invited to share in a common life.

There was a sort of twinkle in Jung’s eye, that gave me the impression that he knew himself to be just as much a villain as everybody else.

There is a nice German word, “hintergedanken”, which means a thought in the very back of your mind.

Jung had a hintergedanken in the back of his mind that showed in the twinkle in his eye. It showed that he knew and recognized, what I sometimes call, ‘the element of irreducible rascality in himself’.

And he knew it so strongly, and so clearly, and in such a way so lovingly, that he would not condemn the things in others, and would therefore not be lead into those thoughts, feelings and acts of violence towards others, which are always characteristic of the people who project the devil in themselves upon the outside – upon somebody else – upon the scapegoat.”

Psychology 101:

If you did not possess any given quality (“good” or “bad”), at least to some degree or potentiality, within yourself, you would never be able to recognize it mirrored back to you in another.

Jung also said,

“Trying to heal this insanity, from which our culture, in particular, has suffered, of thinking that a human being can become hale, healthy and holy by being divided against himself; the inner conflict, paralleling the conception of a cosmic conflict between absolute good and absolute evil, which cannot be reduced to any prior or underlying unity.

In other words, our rage – and our very proper rage – against evil things that occur in this world must not overstep itself, for if we require as a justification for our rage a fundamental and metaphysical division between good and evil, we have an insane, and in a sense schizophrenic universe of which no sense whatsoever can be made. All conflicts, all opposition, has its resolution in an underlying unity.

You cannot understand the meaning of “to be” unless you understand the meaning of “not to be”. You cannot understand the meaning of good unless you understand the meaning of evil.”

For a deeper dive into Watts’ exploration of Jung’s timeless wisdom, and to hear in Watts’ own voice the quotes above, please click on the link to this brilliant video below.

The Core Issue

“The shadow can operate on its own without us knowing what’s happening. It’s as if our conscious self goes on autopilot while the unconscious assumes control.

  • We do things we wouldn’t voluntarily do and later regret.
  • We say things we wouldn’t usually say.
  • Our facial reactions express emotions we don’t consciously feel.
  • We psychically transmit negative energy to others close to us.

Remaining unconscious of the shadow hurts our relationships with our spouses, family, and friends. And it impacts our professional relationships as well as our self-leadership abilities.” – Scott Jeffrey, “The Shadow: Getting to Know Your Darker Half”

So, what’s the solution?

Learning to embrace and accept the shadow side in ourselves and in others or groups of others.

WHAT YOU RESIST, PERSISTS.

There is not one single thing in all creation or under all the heavens that love and acceptance can’t either fix or make better – and never, ever worse.

Here’s the Guided Meditation:

It is up to each and every one of us – especially now – to go into our hearts and meditate on those aspects of ourselves that we’re not that crazy about and RECOGNIZE THEM.

ACKNOWLEDGE THEM.

Tip your hat in their direction, and say inwardly,

“I see you. I know you. I accept you as part of who I am intrinsically. I will not project my shadow side on others, no matter how terrible their behaviour may be or have been.

I will process my pain, my rage, my anger towards them in a healthy fashion, and I will not project that rage, anger or pain at anyone else because I know that will only serve to fuel their flames and propagate more of the same.

I will endeavour to remain in the light and see that person or persons as being in the perfect place in their journey, regardless of their level of consciousness or how terrible their behaviour may have been.

I know that this individual, or individuals, may not express remorse, and may or may not accept punishment for their actions. If they do, or if they do not, it is part of their path and their path only, and is in perfect alignment with their free will.

I know, and affirm, that by accepting them as they are, including their shadow side as I accept the existence of my own, and by sending them unconditional love, I am smothering their desires for perpetrating lower frequency behaviours with my far higher, loving frequencies.

In this way, I am contributing to their betterment and inevitable evolution, and to the common good of all. So be it – and so shall it be.”

Bottom Line:

Once you uncover and explore your own beautiful darkness, recognize and accept it as a part of what make you human, you will then be able to choose to step fully into your radiant, light-body self, and co-create a brand new way of living from the heart-space – in peace, abundance, and complete bliss – that you never, ever, till then, believed to be possible...

Now those are gems are definitely worth searching through the rubble for.

I’ll leave you with this final quote:

Alan Watts

“Meditation is the discovery that the point of life is always arrived at in the immediate moment.” 

This week’s NEW Guided Meditation: Erasing Negative Thoughts

Erasing negative thoughts can be as simple as imagining erasing negative words from a chalkboard and replacing them with positive words in a loving fashion.

This 15 Minute Version of the Overcoming Addiction Support Meditation 2, “Erasing Negative Thoughts”, can be enjoyed and benefitted greatly from outside the Series as a stand-alone Guided Meditation.

The 30 Minute Version follows next week.

As always, Happy Meditating!

From my “(PLEASE, MEDITATE ON THAT.)” Instagram series:

About Me

Meditation has given my life richness and meaning beyond words, and I am passionate about sharing my Guided Meditations, and the myriad benefits meditation offers, with the world… from my heart to yours.

Together with Meditation.Works, let’s cultivate balanced, abundant, healthy and co-creative lives, and build a global culture that advocates deep healing, self-transformation, compassion and true well-being through the power of meditation.

Please help Meditation.Works do just that, one meditator at a time.

“Heal the self, help others heal: Before you know it, we’re all healed!”

ANNOUNCING:

NEW Meditation.Works T-Shirt Designs, like these, that I have had SO MUCH FUN creating!

Spread the message you most resonate with by wearing one of these T’s and see the feeling catch on!

Long and Short-sleeved T-Shirts and Long-sleeved Hoodies, are available sizes XS-XXXL for Adults and Children in many different styles and fabrics choices!

Here’s a link to where you can order yours today!

https://teespring.com/stores/meditationworks-3

As always, Happy Meditating!

With great “Lovitude”,

Renata

BLOG: https://Meditation.Works

EMAIL: Renata@Meditation.Works

INSTAGRAM: https://instagram.com/Meditation.Works

The Author

Meditation.Works Guided Meditations help those who want to “GET INTO”, and “STAY IN” meditation, do so with ease, so they can ”reset” their mind and body, and instantly benefit from the abundant and scientifically irrefutable benefits meditation has to offer. I’m Renata Duma, and aside from this NEW Meditation.Works Blog, where it's a whole new world of meditation, Meditation.Works style, I also offer my Guided Meditation .mp4’s, in 15 and 30 minute versions to both adult beginners and seasoned meditators, on a growing roster of inspirational, motivational and transformational subjects, with hundreds of Guided Meditations soon to be released for adults, children, teens and elders, on subject matters that matter to them most! Aside from other positions I have held and occupations I've undertaken during my lifetime, I’m a Mindfulness Meditation Coach, intuitive empath, healer and life-long meditator (at least as long as I can remember!), whose dream of a lifetime has been to share my Guided Meditations with the world, and help others heal themselves through the awesome and indisputable power of meditation and the many and mighty benefits it offers. My Guided Meditations help meditators overcome the number one reason most people quit meditating, and that is they just can’t get beyond “monkey mind”, or the incessant mental chatter that occurs as a natural response when trying to quieten the mind in silent meditation. The fact is, extensive clinical trials have proven that meditators who meditate for just 15 minutes a day – with a Guided Meditation – receive the exact same physiological, psychological and emotional benefits from meditating as when meditating in silence. That includes an instant 40% reduction in stress and anxiety, and achieving any goal 4 times faster, with a 50% increased chance of success at maintaining that goal indefinitely! My Guided Meditations also broaden the mind and enhance the meditation experience for all levels of meditators by shedding wisdom and light on many of life’s obstacles that surprisingly are “the path”, and are meant for us to explore and ultimately overcome and learn valuable lessons from... For more, please visit the ABOUT US page on the Blog Site. As always, Happy Meditating! With great "Lovitude", Renata

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s